A Mother named Jealousy

“At the root of jealousy lies fear of loss.“

Fear comes from an imagined reality
Stemming from insecurities fed by jealousy
Love is a strong entity that must be without fear to flourish
Jealousy, fear, and anger have the power to discourage.

Oddly enough, aside from being self-deprecating, jealously is a very selfish emotion.
One is more focused on their own feelings rather than the others feelings
If someone lies to you, or makes you doubt them, that’s on them.
Therefore, if you choose to stay, you must believe them.
Erase jealousy from existence by managing your own emotions and not letting your imagination run amuck.
It is so easy to let your mind wander in to scenarios that aren’t fair for you or for them.
Imagination is good for the most part….except for when the imagined derives from fear and insecurities.
Yes, these feelings are mainly controlled by one’s own mind.
But what I’ve learned today is that this cannot happen without some external force.
A reason….a reason that birthed this unwanted feeling. A reason that you had no control over.
That reason is the only reality to the story.
That reason led to being afraid of losing something valuable.
That fear led to trying to find answers in all the wrong places.
These wrong places created a mother named jealousy and her 30 kids, all named insecurity.

“Fear for loss of their relationship, loss of self-respect, even loss of ‘face’ fearing how his friends would see him if he were to be ‘made a fool of’. Fear makes for feelings of insecurity.”

This is something I wrote in February of last year. Funny how the past can lend a hand to the present.

We want so badly to be loved by others, that we lose sight on our own self-worth, and measure that self-worth on how much someone else loves us. Instead, be a little crazy and talk to yourself. Say that you love yourself and all the specifics involved. If you find that that list is shorter than desired, figure out what you dislike about yourself and attempt to conquer the opposite. As heard once or a billion times before, good things take time. The only thing that happens overnight is a pimple, so patience is key.

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